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Memorial service for bereaved parents
FAMILIES will join together tomorrow for a touching memorial service for lost babies.
Forget Me Not, a support group for bereaved parents, will hold its annual multifaith service at Basildon Crematorium, Bowers Gifford at 1pm.
The ceremony features poems, special pieces of music, a candle lighting ceremony and balloon release.
Jo Lane, 42, from Shotgate, Wickford, who set up Forget Me Not with Karla Cairns, 50, Laindon, and Lisa Hayes, 29, both from Laindon, said “It’s open to anyone who has been affected by the loss of a baby.
“We have no idea how many people to expect, but we normally see about 300.
“We don’t approach parents who we are not working with directly at the time, because everyone reacts differently, but so many people who lost babies years ago still turn up.
“There is no right or wrong way to deal with a miscarriage or still birth, but the memorial service lets families remember and grieve alongside others in the same situation.”
Jo believes significant improvements have been made with research and awareness into still births and miscarriages.
Her baby boy Cavan was stillborn back in May 2000 and the devastating experience inspired her to do something to help others talk more openly about their experiences.
Karla’s baby girl Grace was stillborn in November 1992 and Lisa’s baby girl Phenie died on Christmas Day 2002, just nine hours after she was born.
The group helped fund the Forget Me Not bereavement suite at Basildon Hospital and offers ongoing support to parents and other family members who have lost children before, during or after birth.
Jo said: “The last year has been fairly quiet for the group, especially compared to other years, and I think that’s because things have improved so much.
“Obviously, the less busy we are the better it is for everyone, but we know there is still work to be done. However quiet we get ,the group will always be here because
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